In recovery, people you’re told you are only responsible for their actions and reactions. Sometimes this is easier said than done. If you have a lot of family conflicts, responsibilities, and other issues that involve others, you may spend some of your time thinking about how other people should adapt themselves to make life easier. Your ideas may never take place. You can’t control people. Living life in recovery often requires a lot of letting go. So how can you start to focus on yourself, rather than others?
- Work the steps. If you don’t have a sponsor to begin step work with, then it’s time to find one. You can’t work the 12 steps by yourself, no matter how eager you are. Sharing with another person who helps you learn the basics is incredibly essential to your wellbeing. Even if you did a few steps in treatment, it’s important to do your steps again thoroughly with a sponsor. Building a trusted relationship with your sponsor and deepening your relationship is important.
- Get a Big Book/Narcotics Anonymous book and commit to reading it every day. Heck, buy both if you can! The stories in the books will inspire you, and the other chapters will instruct you in twelve-step living. Think of it as your textbook for life. Read the books and highlight things you can relate to.
- Use a daily planner and plan your recovery meetings and other important events. A planner will help give you a sense of purpose as well as accomplishment as you check off items for the day. Make sure to plan some self-care into the days where you sense you’ll be feeling stressed. If you’ve got less than three months sober, plan to try to get to a 12-step meeting every day.
- Start each day with a daily meditation book, and use it. Start your day focusing on uplifting your spirit and staying in tune with your recovery. There are many different books to choose from, including the Just for Today book published by Narcotics Anonymous. Some people use more than one book or other books to get a fresh perspective.
- End each day with gratitude. At the end of every day, keep a gratitude list. What did you accomplish? What made you feel good? Did you face any challenges – and are you grateful you got through them? Choose at least five items every day and take at least 15 minutes reflecting on the feeling of gratitude.
Focusing on your recovery isn’t always merely concentrating on yourself. It also helps you focus on your place in the world, and the way you interact with it. This focus can help you find more spirituality, and peace as you come to a greater understanding of the world around you.
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