Love is a powerful emotion, but the anguish that addiction brings to the table isn’t eliminated by love. That’s why family members need a recovery plan, too. There is a lot to heal from when lives experience an upheaval from addiction.
When you loved a person experiencing a substance abuse disorder, you probably feel a lot of other mixed emotions, such as anger, fear and sorrow. When that same person enters recovery, they too will be going through a lot of emotions, especially the ones they were trying to avoid. Recovery in a treatment facility is a safe way for the addicted person to sort through those feelings and begin to heal.
Healing Your Own Pain
A recovery plan can help set you on the path to a brighter life where you can learn to accept the past, forgive, and plan for the future. Choosing your support network, often with help, is a great way to chart this path.
Things may seem like they are changing rapidly, and learning how to adapt will help you also set boundaries and learn to have reasonable expectations.
Just because your loved one is healing and has a plan for recovery doesn’t mean that all of your own mixed emotions go away. You’re probably still feeling like there’s a lot of mess to clean up, and it may feel impossible to do this on your own. It’s not impossible. But you may need the support of others to begin to feel “normal” once again.
Recovery Plans Help Uncover New Strength
Addiction can cause a loss of trust, damage to relationships and even financial difficulties. Recovering from the emotions associated with these issues isn’t something you have to do alone. A recovery plan can help you feel better and let go of the past.
You’ve been strong for a while if you’ve been dealing with somebody with an addiction disorder. Strong is great but it’s not enough to find healing. Sometimes to heal you must be vulnerable. Learning to act differently, manage expectations, and handle your own grief from the situation will help you maintain your strength as your loved one heals, too.
What Kind of Help?
There is usually family therapy available for addicted persons, especially those in treatment, and many people find the solace in creating a support network of their own. Al-Anon and other organizations are filled with people who can offer their own experience.
Some people will prefer therapy or talking with clergy. The support network you build is up to you. Just remember, change doesn’t happen overnight for anyone. Just as your loved one learns not to use drugs to “feel better”, you may need to learn to let them navigate their own way in life without enabling or “helping too much”. Personal responsibility is a part of recovery, and you need to learn to let go as much as possible and focus on healing yourself.
You and your loved one deserve a chance to reclaim your lives. If you or somebody you know suffers from a substance abuse disorder, there is help available. Please contact us at 877-228-2401 to learn more about your options. Recovery is possible!